International Women's Day [IWD] is on Friday, 8th March 2019! If you are organising an IWD event you might like to consider Tanya Williams as your guest speaker. In addition to her Keynotes in the Digital space, Tanya offers a unique perspective based on her amazon best seller 'A Childfree... Happily Ever After'.
The C word is one of the most powerful words in the world. It can liberate, determine, justify, make, change or impact anyone. The C word is especially relevant when we’re talking about the choice to have children.
I am a childfree woman. I chose to be childfree. I chose the life I have and love right now!
As women we were raised to become mothers. We have babies thrust upon us when we, ourselves are still babies. We are read fairy tales like Cinderella and Snow White that are rescued by a handsome prince and live happily ever after. We were taught female appropriate topics at school like sewing, cooking, English and art.
We were told in the TV shows and movies we watched, the news, society, our mothers, grandmothers and aunties that in order to live happily ever after, you get married and have children. We were raised in a way that tied motherhood to our identifies. We weren’t told we had a choice. We were told to conform.
I say womanhood does not have to equal motherhood.
What I want you to consider is what life is like as a childfree woman. When you read about the experiences that many childfree women have then you might consider how you will change the conversations you are having with all the women in your life, not just us childfree chicks.
Childfree women experience rude questions and dire warnings about a loveless barren future that we will regret. We are often described as strange, unnatural and selfish. You see to some, not having kids is a social faux par.
There is an expectation that not only should we have children, we are supposed to want to have children. I can tell you that my biological clock has never ticked – it is not even stuck on permanent snooze – it has no batteries!
I have never once yearned to procreate and that doesn’t make me weird or not a woman. It makes me who I am. I choose to make my own rules and have other equalling fulfilling areas of my life. I choose puppies over parenthood, I choose being a Rockstar Aunty, I choose career & travel and I choose shoes (lots of shoes).
Unlike a career choice or buying a pair of shoes, you cannot change your mind when it comes to having a child.
I choose my choice!
What you need to remember is that is all about the C word. Choice! When you remember that we are all different and it is OK to play by your own rules then you allow your daughters, sisters and aunties to be who they truly are. This about CHOICE!
The C word should allow us to separate the term women and mother – one is not dependant on the other. I am not anti – kids, I am just anti-kids for me. I choose Choo’s over children- that is my C word of choice.
I believe in choosing to live your life for you. Blaze your own trail, you parents and your friends will get over it. You can choose the life you want to have!
Separate to the digital space, Tanya is also a mentor for Women who play by their own rules. She is an Amazon Best Selling author and Childfree Advocate with a key message around choice and making your own rules in life. Her book A Childfree Happily Ever After aims to change the dialogue and conversation in society for childfree women who are subject to criticism and judgement. She is passionate about mentoring women to play by their own rules and make choices that are right for them. Read more.
If you would like to know more about Tanya’s conference and keynote presentations or training options, contact us for more information, call 1300 55 64 69.
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